Author - Sarah G

For most of us, having sex of some type is something we can do on the fly. I mean, sure, there are people who have kids and busy schedules and need to “write-in” a sex session with their partner, but for the most part, it’s pretty easy to get busy at the drop of a hat.

If you’re someone who is considering going for a little something spicier, something new, then you might be considering a little bit of anal sex. Anal sex isn’t just the stuff of porno’s and college bro’s anymore; more and more women are beginning to enjoy this once-taboo bit of fun in the bedroom.

Unlike vaginal sex, though, anal sex can’t just be done at the spur of the moment unless you really want to make things uncomfortable and messy. If you’re considering getting a bit frisky at the back door, you’ll definitely want to consider these tips to prepare for anal sex.

Five Super Tips to Prepare for Anal Sex

Before you travel down this new highway of lovin’, you want to make sure that both partners are on board and understand what exactly it takes to make anal sex happen.

This is a totally different animal than vaginal or oral sex and requires prep work, including a discussion about it. Just “doing it” is not only going to piss off your partner, but you could also possibly hurt them.

Before you even think of any poking in the behind, you need to decide how it’s going to go down.

Will it be strictly penile penetration, or will you be trying fingers or toys?

Is there anything your partner absolutely does not want to do?

Are you ok with her limiting what goes down and are you willing to stop if she says so?

Do you have everything ready to go (like a lot of lube)?

Seriously, if you two can’t talk about butt things, you’re not ready for butt things, so keep that in mind.

And if she just does not want to do it, do not pressure her into it. That’s not fair and it’s going to cause problems for you that you just don’t need over something so minor.

So, what are the other tips to prepare for anal sex? Well, here you go!

#1: Start with a Finger or Rimming.

Before you even begin to poke other things in your or your girlfriends, bottom, there needs to be some experimentation.

Anything bigger than a finger is going to require much more prep work to keep things safe and clean, so it’s really best to start with a finger or two.

While you and your partner are getting busy, or she’s playing by herself, let a finger wander on back to the sphincter.

Yes, it’s going to be tight. I mean, typically this is an exit only. But just like a woman should masturbate to see what she likes and doesn’t like, playing with the bottom will let her know if she enjoys it or not.

You could also give rimming a try to see if that helps her relax. Rimming, also known as “tossing the salad” or analingus, is when your partner uses their tongue on the anal sphincter.

If it isn’t enjoyable with a finger or tongue, there is a good chance something else might not be her cup of tea either.

#2: Get Clean.

We’ve all heard the horror stories of someone making quite the mess during anal sex. While poo isn’t stored in the anal canal, it’s in the upper bowels, nobody wants there to be even the slightest chance that there could be fecal matter involved in sexy times.

(Unless that’s your thing, which in that case, have at it)

If it’s possible, a visit to the bathroom should be done 30-60 minutes prior to the main event. A nice, long, relaxing shower is also good.

Not just to make sure that any remnants of the bathroom visit are gone, but also to get her in the mood.

If you or your lady are really worried about poo, an enema is an option. It isn’t a necessity, but if you want a deeper clean, this is the way to go.

Enema kits are available just about everywhere and if you’re shy, order one.

A word of warning on the use of enemas. Frequent use can cause you some issues down the road and they shouldn’t be used often for sexual purposes.

Not only can they cause electrolyte imbalances, but they can damage the muscles back there that regulate normal bowel function.

#3: Stock Up on Lube.

If you’re preparing for anal sex, you absolutely have to use lube. Let me repeat it for the folks in the back who aren’t listening.

If you’re going to perform anal sex, you MUST use lube. Unlike the vagina, there is absolutely no self-lubrication back there at all. Get yourself some lube and get a lot of it.

This leads to the question, “What kind of lube should I get?”

Here are the lube rules, which will, of course, vary by your situation.

First, do not get any numbing lube or creams. Sure, they may work to stop pain in the moment, but if you’re doing anal sex properly, there shouldn’t be extreme amounts of pain anyway.

The biggest issue with these products is that they will prevent you from stopping if there is an issue and once they wear off, the pain and damage could be worse.

Secondly, if you’re using condoms, don’t use an oil-based lubricant. Oil-based lubes will break down the latex in condoms and if you’re trying to prevent STDs, especially HIV, you’re really putting yourself at risk.

Instead, opt for a water-based lube, which will be easier to clean up from yourself and the sheets and they are A-OK with toys and sexual protection.

Just remember, water-based lubes don’t last as long as oil-based, so have a butt-ton of it at your disposal. (Pun definitely intended).

Oh, and I wish I didn’t have to say this, but do not rely on spit as a lubricant. Porn has really skewed people’s thinking on sexual matters and trust me, a good old loogey is not a proper lube.

#4: Consider Starting with a Toy.

If she still isn’t totally ready to have a penis in her behind, but she’s kind of into what the rimming and self-play did for her, consider using a toy first.

Again, when preparing for anal sex, there are some things you have to be careful with when choosing a toy.

Unlike a vagina which has a built-in stopper (the cervix, for those not in the know), the anal canal has no such stopper.

If you choose a toy that has no flared end, you do risk having said toy being stuck up in the pipe. I don’t know about you, but I would be beyond pissed if I had to go to the hospital and explain that one!

Instead, choose something like a small butt plug or toy that has a flared end to it. You may have to experiment with toys that increase in size over a period of a few weeks, so keep that in mind too.

You can’t go from nothing ever crossing that threshold to a giant toy or penis in one night; trying to do so could result in tears, bleeding, pain, and a doctor’s visit.

#5: Keep on One Path.

Let’s say you’ve done all the prep work for anal sex and your lady is totally into it. You got your goods in, she’s feeling good, but it doesn’t get her the home run and she needs some regular vaginal penetration to orgasm.

Whatever you do, DO NOT USE THE SAME CONDOM (OR DIRTY DICK) IN HER VAGINA.

It doesn’t matter how clean she was prior to the two of you getting started, the rectum is a place full of bacteria. If you move from anal to vaginal, you’re putting her at-risk for UTI’s and other nasties that require some strong antibiotics. And if you two did it bareback, you’re actually at-risk for issues if any of that bacteria gets into your penile tip.

To keep everyone safe, use protection and remove it between holes or stick strictly with one hole only per sexy session.

Conclusion: Anal Sex Can Be Fun but Requires Prep Work.

Like anything that you want to be good at, anal sex requires some prep work. Otherwise, it just isn’t going to be enjoyable. And, be honest, don’t you want to have a good time having anal sex? That’s the only way it’ll happen a second time, that’s for sure.

So, before you venture on down to brown town, follow these five tips to prepare for anal sex. You can thank me after you orgasm like never before. You’re very welcome! Now, if you’re not up for all that, then hop on cam and chat with a model instead.

I want to confess one thing…I love giving blowjobs. Like, really love it. When I’m not making money on cam, I’m probably doing this – not joking. There is nothing sexier to me than being able to pleasure my man better than any other woman was ever able to do so.

I know, I know, not everyone enjoys giving oral sex. From having someone’s junk thrust into your face, which may or may not have a distinct scent, to him getting too pushy and attempting the obnoxious face-fuck that you never agreed to. We’ve all had bad bj experiences, but don’t let it stop you from giving head!

My friends always ask me why I love giving blowjobs so much. For me, there is absolutely nothing more empowering than having that control over a man. And for the guy, he gets the experience of sex without having to do all the work and you’re doing something he can’t do for himself, which is also amazing.

If you’re looking to improve your blowjob techniques and make it more enjoyable for the both of you, or you’re brand new to giving head and you want to be the bomb diggity at it from the get-go, consider these 7 tips for giving the best blowjobs of your life!

7 Tips for Giving the Best Blowjobs

Giving good head is an art. Anyone can plop some junk in their mouth and go through the motions, but to make it memorable and enjoyable for both of you, it takes some work. I mean, it is called a “job” after all!

However, this type of job is one of the best and definitely shouldn’t be drudgery. If you’re looking to give an excellent bj, consider these blowjob tips:

1. Be enthusiastic!

The number one rule for giving a blowjob is to have fun and act as if you actually want to be doing it. If you’re not enthusiastic about what you’re doing, your man is going to be able to tell and he’s not going to enjoy it either.

Now, let me say this especially loud for the people in the back of the room: Never, ever do something you don’t want to do and don’t do it with someone you’re not happy to be with, especially in the bedroom. I would never advocate doing something just to make another person happy.

However, if you’re down, and thinking of going down (see what I did there?), here is how you can show your guy you’re enthusiastic about gobbling his knob:

• Keep eye contact – Here is where you want to release your inner sex goddess and flap those big eyelashes at him after you’ve been looking at his unit. Don’t maintain unblinking eye contact, that’s just strange and creepy. Instead, make it seem like you can’t keep your eyes off of his junk and let him read through your eyes how much you want him.
• Ask him what he wants – Communication is key before and during sex. Ask him what type of bj’s he enjoys, stop while you’re pleasuring him and ask if it’s wet enough, or how he is enjoying it. Just do not ever ask if he’s “close.” If you have to ask, you’re not doing it right, anyway.
• Let him know how turned on you are – Men aren’t really any different than we are, and they get nervous about oral sex as well. Ease his nerves by complimenting him. Saying, “I love how you feel in my mouth” can go a long way.

2. Use your hands.

Oral sex isn’t just about your mouth. Using your hands can really help when your mouth and jaw are starting to get tired. An effective blowjob is a nice mix of wetness and suction along with your hands providing some pressure.

Try this once you’ve warmed up a bit:

• Wrap your hand around the shaft of his penis and then add your mouth.
• Put your mouth against your thumb and forefinger, like you’re kissing them.
• Move your hand and lips up and down his penis in one fluid motion.

You can also try mixing it up, moving your hand separately from your mouth, add in a wrist twist, and if he’s ok with it (and you asked beforehand), cup his balls gently with the other hand.

3. Use spit…lots and lots of spit.

Successful oral sex is wet and slippery. Nobody likes it dry; I mean, do you like when things are too dry down there?

The more spit you use, the more movement you’re going to have and the better it will feel for him. Don’t go too crazy and make it so you’re both covered in drool and your hands are slipping all over the place, but make sure things stay moist. And definitely keep some water on hand, you’re probably going to need it.

4. Use your tongue.

Your tongue is a great way to drive your guy crazy, especially if you start flicking on that little spot on the underside of his penis called the frenulum. They have a boatload of nerve endings in that one area and light touching, tongue flicking, and rubbing of your tongue up and down his shaft is not only porn-like, but it is also mind-blowing for them.

5. Keeps those lips pursed.

Try saying the word “purple” right now. See how your lips get pursed and your tongue drops down? That’s the position you want to stay in when you have a mouth full o’peenie. It makes your lips feel like perfect little pillows and combined with suction, makes your mouth an amazing place to rest his penis for a few minutes.

6. Give deep throating a try.

This will depend on the size of your man’s manhood and how experienced you are with doing blowjobs. Deep-throating is more of an advanced skill and if done improperly can result in (at best) you gagging, or (at worst) you barfing all over your partner’s crotch.

Men enjoy deep throating because, well it’s kind of slutty, makes them feel manly seeing their goods disappear completely into your mouth, and your throat is a tighter space. Men love putting that thing in tight spaces!

If you want to practice deep throating without throwing up on a guy, get yourself some popsicles and work through getting it deeper and deeper, all the while breathing through your nose. If after some practice you just can’t do it, don’t force the issue. Don’t ever choke yourself on a penis, it’s totally not worth it.

7. Consider butt play.

This is something you would have ideally discussed before you’re going to town on his penis. Some men love, love, LOVE anal play while they’re being pleasured, and some won’t have you anywhere near the backdoor with a finger.

If your guy is into trying it out, start by gently touching his perineum (the taint for all you uncouth folks) and working up to a finger in the old bum. The prostate is in that area and is very sensitive (a male G-spot), making some men cum even harder when it is stimulated.

If you really want to blow his mind, have your mouth on the head of his penis, one hand working the shaft, the other cupping and gently massaging his balls while your pointer finger on that hand works his perineum and slips into his bottom.

Trust me, if he’s into butt play, he’s going to be putty in your hands if you can master this move.

Conclusion: Blowjobs can and should be fun!

Oral sex is amazing, especially when it is done well. If you want to please and pleasure your man like he’s never been pleasured before, consider these best blowjob tips to making his head spin. And when you’re done, hold your head high and take pride in the fact that you’re the BJ Queen! Oh, don’t forget to put this skill on your webcam profile. The boys will go nuts for it!

Cam shows have exploded in popularity and everyone and their sister has started getting into the cam show world. With the number of cam shows that occur every day and the oversaturation of girls in the cam show market, it can be difficult to differentiate yourself from every other pretty, sexy woman out there.

There are many ways to make your cam shows more exciting and one of the top ways to make your shows memorable and to draw in customers who are into things a little sexier is to squirt during a show.

If you’re not familiar with what squirting is, you’re definitely not alone. There are many people who have never heard of squirting or they don’t believe that it is possible. But, trust me, squirting is totally real and can really get your customers excited if you can pull it off during a show.

If you’re interested in learning about squirting and how to make a woman squirt, this is your go-to guide.

What Exactly Is Squirting (A How To Guide)

Once considered a rare, fringe thing, squirting is now something a little more mainstream, and something that turns men on like you wouldn’t believe!

So, what exactly is squirting? Squirting refers to the expulsion of fluid from a woman’s urethra when she is having an intense, mind-blowing orgasm that is due to G-spot stimulation. Science doesn’t really understand much about squirting, they mostly study male sexual stuff, so they don’t know what the thin, milky fluid is that comes out. Some say its urine, some say its fluid from the Skene’s glands, the female equivalent of the prostate gland.

The bottom line is this: Nobody cares what the fluid is. It’s just something sexy that women can do and if you can, you’re sure to not only turn on your sex partner(s) but also increase the tips you earn during your cam shows.

The biggest question most women have is if they can squirt. And the answer is “Absolutely!” All women have the capability to squirt, it just takes a little prep work and some time.

If you’ve never squirted before and you’re looking to improve your cam shows, here are the best steps to make yourself, or any woman, squirt.

Simple Steps To Making Any Woman Squirt

These are the exact steps you need to take in order to make your girlfriend, wife or any woman you know squirt.

Step #1: Get Prepared

Squirting is a skill and just like any other skill, it takes some prep work to make it happen. Whether you’re going to attempt to squirt on camera on your own, or you’re going to have a partner to help, you need to make sure you do a few things to get ready.

First, get your mind clear and ready for some sexy times. A mind that is occupied with something else just isn’t going to cooperate. Play some sexy music, have a nice, relaxing bath, and burn some incense or scented candles to set the mood.

Oh, and please, go to the bathroom before you begin playing. A full bladder isn’t going to help in aiding relaxation and if you’re empty and you do actually squirt, you can be assured it isn’t urine like some people claim.

Once the mood is set, its time to really warm her, or yourself, up. Foreplay is essential for squirting and you have to do what works for you; everyone will be different. If you’re with a partner, consider a massage, heavy kissing, dirty talk, and/or focusing on erogenous zones.

If you’re attempting to squirt alone, touch yourself how you enjoy it, use toys to tease yourself and watch or read whatever porn typically gets you going.

Step #2: Get Into A Comfortable Position

It is extremely important that you, or your partner, are completely relaxed, both physically and mentally. The heavier the foreplay, the more relaxed you will be. Once your head is ready, now you want to get yourself into the correct position.

To prepare to squirt, lay down somewhere comfortable. Whether it’s a bed, rug, or couch, make sure it’s comfortable, sensual, and provides a good view for your show.

Next, put your bottom on a pillow. A little elevation will provide better access to your G-Spot and clitoris at the same time. Because you’re going to be ejaculating, you are probably going to want to have a towel down as well, or at least nearby, to prevent too much of a mess.

Step #3: Have Lube Ready

Lube is absolutely essential in getting a woman to squirt. You can choose to use whatever type of lube you like, just remember that oil-based lubes will deteriorate latex condoms and can damage sex toys.

The key is to make sure everything is wet; the clit, vulva, and inside the vagina, as well as the toys and fingers being used to stimulate yourself. Really the wetter, the better when it comes to squirting.

Step #4: Find That G-Spot

Finding the G-Spot isn’t difficult if you know what you’re looking for and you know how to find it.

Here’s how:

1. Stimulate the clitoris for a few minutes, it really gets things “going”.
2. Insert the middle finger into the vagina (palm facing up). You don’t need more than one finger, it will just make things too crowded.
3. About two inches deep, begin rubbing the upper vaginal wall in a “come here” motion.

After a few minutes of stimulation, the G-Spot should become more noticeable. It will feel spongy, wrinkled, and almond-shaped and be located about two knuckles deep. Approximately 10-15 minutes of stimulation should cause the G-Spot to balloon up and the frontal wall should swell.

At this point, there will be a strong urge to urinate, and as long as your bladder was emptied, it isn’t actually urine, it’s ejaculate. Now is the time to let loose and let those juices flow!

What If It Doesn’t Happen?

Unfortunately, squirting isn’t always the easiest thing to do and it won’t always happen the first, or first few times you attempt it. If it doesn’t work out initially, don’t fret. It can happen.

Experimenting with different finger movements can usually do the trick. Tapping on the G-Spot, applying more pressure, or stimulating the clitoris at the same time as stimulating the G-Spot can all increase arousal and the chances for squirting.

There are also specialized G-Spot stimulating toys that focus on the intended area and can give your or your partner’s hands a break. Consider the Pure Wand by NJoy or the Gigi 2 by Lelo.

Also, make sure you’re hydrated. Yes, just like you should drink water for your overall well-being, squirting requires adequate hydration to occur. Get your minimum eight cups of water a day, and on the day you want to attempt squirting, drink a little more a few hours before the show.

And finally, please make sure that you relax. Squirting is all about what’s going on in the brain and the more uptight you are, the less likely it is that you’ll squirt. So, before you give up, make sure that you are totally and completely in the zone.

Instructional Video

If you’re not understanding everything about female cum and squirting, then you need to watch this video. It’s perhaps the best video on this subject that I’ve found to date. These tips can help you better understand what I’m talking about for sure.

Conclusion: Squirting Isn’t Always Easy, But Def Doable.

I hate to burst the bubble, but not every woman is going to be able to squirt. However, it is possible with some time and practice. And if you can accomplish this, I promise you that your cam show tips will only increase, which is exactly what all cam girls want! Hey, if you’re a consumer and you’re reading this, then you need to know that this page lists out all the cam sites you need.

I’ve been trying to cover as many topics as possible lately and one that recently came to mind was – how cam sites work. Oddly enough, I’ve never thought of covering this topic in detail but what’s a better time than now? This update is for both cam girls and cam site users. Basically, anyone interested in learning how this stuff works. I’ve covered it all today. Now, if you’re a cam girl looking to just take action and join a site that pays, then you might want to give this a read here. 🙂 It’s the site that I’ve been using as my main source of income these days. Now back to the topic at hand…

How Do Webcam Sites Really Work?

Online sex work takes on many forms. While free porn sites are, and always will be, among the most popular way to get your jollies, cam girl websites are a very close second. However, not everyone knows what exactly happens on cam sites and many people think it is strictly just women rubbing one off in front of guys for money.

Yes, there is definitely sexual activity happening on cam shows. I mean, who would want to watch them otherwise? But just because a customer expects a certain act doesn’t mean it’s going to happen.

So, what exactly is a cam girl website? And what goes on on these types of shows? If you’re new to camming and curious about the ins and outs of how cam girl websites work, this article is definitely for you.

What Are Cam Sites?

Cam sites are websites that host both cam models and their customers. Unlike traditional porn sites, cam sites are interactive and live. Cam chat rooms will present a video feed of the model as she does whatever it is she is comfortable with, as well as a chat feature where the model can interact with her viewers.

Viewers are capable of offering up suggestions as to what they’d like to see, but each model has the right to either do what they want or decline if she isn’t feeling comfortable with what they are asking of her. It is highly recommended that as a cam model you make it very clear in your cam site bio what you will and will not do. This keeps everyone from getting frustrated, and trust me, some of the customers you’re going to get will get nasty if they think you’re wasting their money.

You should also know that you’re going to have trolls that show up just to make your life difficult. It’s the nature of the internet. Be prepared to toss out anyone that is giving you a hard time and make sure you block them so that they don’t keep returning.

What Can You Stream On Webcam Sites?

There are probably hundreds of camming sites out there and each one has its own content. You should definitely check out whatever site you’re planning on using to see what they do and do not allow in a cam show before you start broadcasting so you don’t get banned and/or lose any money that is owed to you.

Typically, cam sites will allow dirty talk and self-sexual acts such as masturbation and using toys. Other sites will allow full-on sexual encounters on-screen, however, those sites require a few hoops that you’ll have to jump through to make that happen. See, a site doesn’t want to get busted for having underage participants or someone that never consented to be included in a show, it is illegal.

So, if you plan on having sex on camera with another person, read all the fine print of your chosen site, submit all the proper paperwork, and make sure everyone involved has consented to being in a show and is of legal age.

How Do These Work?

Cam sites are pretty much relationship-based. The model will host her chat room on a cam site with the goal of connecting with their customers so they can bring in the money, usually in the form of tips. Most cam sites don’t charge to host these chat rooms, but they do get their cut by taking a cut of the earnings a model makes.

Payments for cam model work are in the form of “tips.” A customer that enjoys these public shows will then tip the model for her time. If a customer upgrades to a private chat session, they will usually be paying by the minute.

There is no set amount of money a cam model can earn for her shows, either public or private. It really comes down to the following she has, what she does in her shows, and how much engagement she has with these fans outside of shows. Not everything involving cam shows is sexual, remember, and a good personality with a strong connection to her fans can really increase the amount of money a cam model makes.

Are There Any Negatives To Camming?

Being a cam model can be a great way to make extra money and if you’re really good at it, you can even make a living for a chunk of time. However, it isn’t all sunshine and rainbows.

It does take work to get your fanbase growing. This isn’t a passive job, you have to get out there, online mostly, and get yourself recognized. The cam model world is so oversaturated, you need to differentiate yourself from everyone else. You may have to do some things for free, consider doing things in your shows others aren’t doing, interact with people as if you’re totally into them, and spend some money on yourself, your set-up, and equipment up-front.

Another negative is that you may have to deal with less desirables. The fact is, harassment is a huge issue in camming with trolls (on the forums too) and obsessed fans doing everything in their ability to make your day more difficult, including doxing. Doxing is when someone tries to “out” you and your personal/private information online. It is a sad fact, but there are viewers that don’t see cam models as human, but almost like robots that “owe” them whatever they want because they’re being paid.

You will also have to watch out for your paid content being stolen and posted to free sites without your permission and without you being compensated. This is a huge problem in the live porn world and is very difficult to stop.

Conclusion

Camming is often dismissed as a joke but can actually be a great career for a hustling cam model willing to put in the time it takes to build your brand. Cam sites are numerous, with each having its own positives and negatives for the cam models, but with a little research, you can find the right site for you and the type of shows you intend to put on.

Read the information provided by your chosen site, get comfortable with how you are paid, perfect your shows, and within no time you should be bringing in the money!