Author - Sarah G

How To Last Longer In Bed

There is probably nothing more exciting than sex. Sure, there are supposedly desserts that are “better than sex”, but whoever is saying that has had some crummy sex in their lives. Truthfully, sex, and specifically having an orgasm is one of life’s greatest joys.

So, what happens when your orgasms aren’t cooperating, or you just don’t have the stamina in bed to prolong the good times? Nobody wants to be “that guy”, who finishes too quickly and becomes known as a “two-pump chump.” Luckily, you don’t need to feel badly if that’s something that happens to you because it happens to most guys at some point in their lives.

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Whether it be stress, a medical issue, you’re just too excited, whatever, one out of every three men will have trouble with not lasting as long as they like in the bedroom.

The biggest question from guys is always, “How can I last longer before having an orgasm?” And if you’re one of those guys, here are the tips that will not only help you increase your confidence, but also to help you last longer in bed.

Average Ejaculation Time

In a study done by the Journal of Sexual Medicine, it was found that the average time for ejaculation, that is the time between vaginal penetration and the act of ejaculation was an average of 5.4 minutes.

However, this isn’t really the norm; in a recent book on adult sex education found that most men reportedly finish within two minutes. For someone that has premature ejaculation, this time is a minute and under, no matter how hard you try to control yourself.

Even if you don’t have a premature ejaculation diagnosis proper, almost every guy would like to be able to extend his orgasms. If you’re looking for ways to last longer in bed, here are the best ways to do that:

Tips To Make Yourself Last Longer (Slow Your Orgasm)

I want to preface this section with all the legal mumbo-jumbo we’re supposed to include. If you’re having any issues with your orgasms, private parts, or any other health-related issue, you need to see a doctor. Yes, it’s going to be awkward, but you’re a grownup and you can do it.

I’m not going to scare you, but if you’re having issues with the private parts, you could have other issues going on and it’s always better to be safe than sorry in the long run. So, once you’ve got that medical checkup and things are ok in that area, you can then focus on these methods to last longer in bed.

#1: Kegels

Wait, aren’t those the things that women are supposed to do after they’ve had kids so they stop wetting themselves when they pick things up and to make it feel like less their man is throwing a hot dog down a hallway when they have sex?

Yep, just like women, men have pelvic floor muscles known as pubococcygeal (PC) muscles. You can find them by taking a pee, stopping the flow of the urine, and starting again. Those are the muscles.

To strengthen those muscles, it is recommended that you stand in the mirror naked and try to lift your testicles up or shorten your penis without using your hands.

It will be all muscle work and you’ll do this for 10-second increments for 10 rounds. Once you’ve seen how it works in the mirror, you can literally do this anywhere (with your damn pants on, please).

Research has shown that between 60 – 75% of men who have trouble prolonging their orgasms improved their rate strictly by practicing Kegels on a regular basis.

#2: Limit How Much You’re Thrusting

Let’s face it, if you’re thrusting like a wild rabbit, you’re getting yourself and your “good buddy” wound up for the final act. I know it feels good, but the more you thrust, the quicker you’re going to orgasm.

To last longer, use your penis to tease her clitoris, have her play with your penis, and do as minimal thrusting as you can until you’re ready. Heck, this might even make her squirt if you do it correctly.

#3: Try Out Edging

If you’re a guy, you’re going to masturbate. (Don’t lie and say you don’t) This is a great time to practice something known as edging.

Edging is getting yourself right to the point of an orgasm through manual stimulation, then backing off completely until you’ve got yourself back under control. Kind of seems like its defeating the purpose of a wank session, right?

But, according to sex therapists, edging helps your brain to get control of the orgasm response and allows you to last longer.

Oh, and speaking of masturbation, doctors at the Mayo Clinic recommend masturbation an hour or two prior to sex with a partner to help delay orgasming.

This works especially well if you haven’t had an orgasm in a while, which puts you more at risk for shooting off quickly. Masturbation should help you delay that climax, which is definitely a good thing.

Just be careful. If you try to do a rub-off too soon before a real sexual encounter, you might not be able to perform at all, so time it appropriately for your body.

#4: Let Her Finish First

We always hear “nice guys finish last” and in the bedroom, that might help you to last longer as well. Many good guys get very worked up if their partner doesn’t orgasm, putting even more pressure on themselves. Talk to your partner, find out what works for her, DO THOSE THINGS, and focus less on yourself.

Once she’s finished and feeling amazing, then it’s your turn.

#5: Use Condoms

Unless you’re in a monogamous relationship, you should be using condoms anyway. But, I won’t get on my soapbox other than to say, stay safe out there.

Now, most guys don’t like rubbers because, well, they suck. They feel different, you’re stopping what you’re doing to slip it on, they can break, yadda yadda yadda.

Here’s the good thing about them, besides the preventing sexually transmitted infections and unwanted pregnancies: if you choose a brand that is a little thicker, it helps to desensitize the feelings you’ll get and could help you prolong the time until you orgasm, thus helping you to last longer.

#6: Try Some Alternative Things

Now, the things I’m about to recommend are for those of you that are really struggling with lasting longer in bed. Of course, legal stuff here, contact your doctor first and make sure they are an OK option for you and your body, so things don’t go awry.

The first option is using anesthetic wipes. Companies like Roman offer up these wipes that have a bit of benzocaine in them, which will numb things down there, delaying the sensations necessary for an orgasm.

There are also sprays, topicals, and condoms that do the same things, but they can also cause your partner to be numbed as well. If you plan on using anything like that, make sure your partner has no allergies and is on board with trying out numbing agents first.

Another option is using technology. The FDA has approved something called Prolong, a device that helps you practice delaying ejaculation by jerking off into a $300 gadget over a period of six weeks.

There are also apps that help train you over a period of time to last longer and these may be something you want to try before spending the big bucks on an artificial vagina.

Finally, there is also the options of using medications, however, this is typically reserved for those with legit PE and are considered a last resort. Please, do not order pills from some unknown source online. There is no guarantee they are safe, and you have no idea where they’re coming from. Be safe!

Conclusion: To Last Longer, You’ve Got to Practice

It can be super stressful to come too quickly in bed. Every guy wants to last longer and when you can’t, you think something is wrong with you. Trust me, there is not a thing wrong with you if you shoot off too soon.

The good news is that most cases of coming too quickly can be worked on and fixed with a little practice. If you give these six tips a try, you’re sure to last longer and have the satisfying sex you are craving.

Reddit Tips For Cam Girls

If you’ve spent any time on the internet at all, you’ve stumbled across the specialized discussion boards known as Reddit. Reddit started in 2005 and it’s a place where registered users can submit content such as links, images, and text which is then voted on by other members. You can find just about anything on Reddit, and posts are organized by subject into “sub-Reddits” with topics from current events to science to movies to fitness to, yep, you guessed it, sex. Today, I’m covering EVERYTHING you need to know about using Reddit in order to grow your brand as a cam model.

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Official Reddit Guide For Cam Models

Reddit has over 330 million active monthly members, which means there are a lot of eyes looking at whatever is posted on the seventh most-visited site on the internet worldwide. If you’re a cam girl, that means you could actually use a site like Reddit to your advantage.

Maybe you’re saying, “But, how?” Well, let me first tell you that on Reddit, like just about everywhere else, sex is big. There are dozens of subreddits dedicated to sex and sexual topics, including r/CamSluts, a subreddit dedicated to cam girls, webcam girls, and amateurs who want to show off what they can do on video.

With 64% of Reddit users in the age demographics of 18-24 and over 40 million searches done daily on Reddit, your chances of exposure are pretty damn good, especially when you’re in a career that requires your name be “out there” like cam work does. If you’re a cam girl, here is how you can use Reddit to your advantage by becoming a Reddit cam girl.

The Cam Girl Community on Reddit

Cam work is competitive, especially now that the waters are so full of women (and men) who want to try their hands at making some bank online. What is great about the camming subreddits is that there are always people there that have done what you’re looking to do, have experience in all avenues of cam work, and are more than willing to be helpful when you’ve got any questions.

As much as you talk to people online as a cam worker, you’re pretty much in a career where you’re alone. There are no business meetings, no constructive criticism from bosses, and no real organization that you are working with. Plus, many people still stupidly look down on sex work of any type and sorry to say it, but cam work is considered sex work.

That’s a great reason to give the subreddits a try. You can connect with other cam workers and feel less alone and not at all judged like your friends may have a tendency to do. I know that has been one of the biggest benefits of Reddit for myself as a cam worker.

Getting Your Name Out There

Another positive of Reddit for cam workers is that you can post links to your work. As a cam girl, you’re probably using a site like Chaturbate or Cam Soda for work. Those are great sites, but you rely on users of those sites to see you and get interested in you.

If you’re new to camming, this can take some time. And in the cam world, time equals money. Reddit, with allowing you to post links to your videos, allows you to show what you do to people who may not be members of those sites yet.

This means more exposure and hopefully more paying customers who want to see more of what you do. The more interest you can get, the better!

The added bonus of becoming a Reddit cam girl is that they allow couples posts if you’re into that, and hardcore content is welcome. The site and the subreddits are moderated but don’t let that scare you, it is mostly to ensure that things run smoothly and there is no bullying going on and that everyone involved is of legal age.

Oh, and if those that watch your videos are really turned on, they can award you with coins. Now, as of today, they aren’t real currency, but instead something that will be used for stuff that Reddit will have. But, hey, you never know what those things will be and if they might end up being real money in the future.

Being An Adult Services Seller On Reddit

If you decide that you want to do more than just share your video links to other cam sites, you may want to consider being an adult services seller on Reddit.

This can be something you decide to do if you want to leave those other sites, or in addition to your cam work. However, you decide to use it, selling adult services on Reddit is great for cam girls.

Now, here is a little warning for you before you decide to post anything sexual on Reddit: If you’re looking to remain completely anonymous, Reddit isn’t going to be for you.

If you still want to use Reddit for your cam work, you should definitely not post in subreddits from your city or anything local; posts are completely public, and you could absolutely be traceable.

If you’re OK with all of this and still want to use Reddit for your cam business, you will want to familiarize yourself with the adult services selling subreddits that are available. You will more than likely have to become a verified user, which means posting a bit of free content on Reddit, but its more than worth it in the end.

The trick to this is to post pics or gifs of yourself on subreddits that fit with what you’re about. If you’re a girl with huge boobs, find subreddits for that. Or, if you’re a geeky girl, look for those subreddits. There are literally kinks and niches for everyone on Reddit.

Oh, and don’t try to charge for this content. Don’t mention prices, and don’t mention you’re a seller in these non-selling subreddits. Only when a member contacts you about your free content would it be wise to let them know you’ll chat…for a fee.

Many of these users won’t take the bait and they aren’t going to pay you. Don’t let that get you down, though. All of this just works towards getting your account verified, which means you can move to the adult services selling subreddits.

Once you’re at that stage, really read the rules for whatever subreddit you’re looking at joining. Each subreddit has its own rules and there is no excuse for being declined or booted because you didn’t follow the rules.

If you’re serious and want to make money on Reddit as a cam girl, you have to follow their rules, otherwise, you’ll be banned, which sucks.

Make Your Own Subreddit

As your popularity increases and you’ve used Reddit for a bit, you have the option of creating a subreddit dedicated completely to you.

This is your Wiki and you should include everything about you as a cam worker for your fans and paying customers, including your cam sites, your kinks and interests, how to pay you for content, what you might sell besides shows, and anything else that has to do with your cam work.

Remember, though, this will take time. Using Reddit requires a little advance work and planning, you can’t just jump on and become a Reddit cam girl star within minutes.

Final Thoughts: Using Reddit To Become A Successful Cam Girl Takes Work

Reddit is a great place to grow your cam career and make some extra money, especially if you are using the right subreddits. Unfortunately, it can’t be done instantaneously, but instead requires you to do some work with understanding the rules of Reddit and following them over a period of time.

However, once you’ve done that, Reddit, with its huge membership base, gets you out there and helps you to grow your cam girl business like no other way.

How To Be A Fanboy

Cam girls are some of the most widely watched women across the world. Me and my friends are watched by millions of people daily – literally. There’s just something more exciting when you can log on to a show and see a legit, real woman and not just spend your time wanking it too boring, old porno clips on Pornhub. Don’t get me wrong, porn is great and fills in a need, but a living, breathing woman who is doing things you’re craving to see is even better. Actually, it’s ten times better.

If you’re a fan of cam shows and you have cam models you enjoy, you’re probably wondering how you can be the best cam girl fanboy you can be. I mean, each model has her own favorites and the better a customer you are, the more attention you’re going to get. And, isn’t that why you watch cam shows anyway?

If you want to be the best fanboy that you can be, there are definitely some things you can do to make yourself the “A+, shining star” of fanboys. Presented here for all of you fans of cam girls are the rules of how to be the best fanboy possible.

Before diving into this, let’s cover the basics. What is a fanboy? A fanboy is someone who is an extreme fan or more of a fan than most people out there. Simple as that and fanboys get more love.

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Rules Every Fanboy Must Follow

These rules I’m going to share with you aren’t set in stone. Each cam girl is going to be unique in what she likes and doesn’t like, and you’ll have to do a little research into what your particular muse is into when you take your conversations private.

However, I can guarantee that if you follow these fanboy rules, you’re going to be her best customer, especially when most guys won’t even think to do these things. Trust me, these rules apply whether you’re using Jerkmate, Streamate any other webcam site.

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Make Polite Conversation.

Look, we all know why guys like cam girls. It’s to see some booty, see some touching, and most likely to get “off” on their side. But, remember, fanboys, these women are still human beings.

Yes, you’re going to get your show, but if you’re polite and can have discussions about things other than strictly having sex, you’re going to endear yourself more to your cam girl.

Another reason to talk with your cam girl about other things is that it helps her to remember that you’re just a regular guy, too. Sure, this is a paid sexual transaction, but just like she’s a human being, so are you.

It’s a sad fact, but many guys are attracted to cam girls for things other than sex, like chit-chat and friendship. It may not be a friendship in the traditional sense of the word, but it is always nice to have someone to talk to when you don’t have that elsewhere.

The more you talk (politely), the more you both get to know each other and that can really go a long way.

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Send Her Some Gifts.

Most, if not all, cam girls have a wish list that they keep on Amazon. They will usually add things of all price ranges, from cheap to super expensive, so you’re bound to find something that you can afford.

Cam girls will prioritize a fanboy if he is more generous, this is her career, after all. So, if you can swing it, find her wish list and take a gander.

Start small (unless you want to go crazy, then by all means, have at it) and just watch how fast you start to become a very important fanboy.

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Don’t Try to Push Her into Your Script.

Remember how I said your favorite cam girls are actually human? This applies here as well. If you’re in a private show and you think it has to go exactly the way you want it to, you’re going to be sorely disappointed.

Live shows are just that, live. Things will happen that you didn’t think of, she may not be comfortable with your requests, or technology may fail. Stuff happens!

If you’re into something really kinky or different, talk with your cam model about it. If she’s into it and willing to indulge you, great. If not, and it’s going to push you into being abusive or leaving bad reviews, you need to be mature, accept that she isn’t the right one for your interests, and go about finding the one who is.

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Don’t Ask Her Out.

This one is tricky because the lines can be blurred between fantasy and emotions. Many fanboys are A-OK with remembering that cam girls are a fantasy and something fun. But, some guys get a touch confused on this and want to take out their cam models on dates.

My best advice about this is: Don’t ever ask out your cam model. She is never going to say yes. She doesn’t want to date you.

That may sound mean, but trust me, as much as you want to think you’re going to woo her and win her over, you’re not. It never happens like that in the camming world.

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Don’t Ask Her to Do Things She’s Already Said No To.

Again, this goes back to the mental script rule, but I think it really bears repeating because it is very common for fanboys who are not getting what they want to become mean.

If you’ve got a kink or fetish that you want to see and you’ve discussed this with your cam model and she just isn’t comfortable with it, don’t push her. Especially if she’s said, “Absolutely, no.” Everyone has their hard limits and you need to respect that.

That doesn’t mean a cam model won’t ever bend a little and do something you like, especially if you’ve been with her awhile and are a good tipper, but just don’t expect it. And, I wish I didn’t have to say this, but don’t ask her to do anything illegal or goes against her morals.

Would you want someone asking you to do something that you find uncomfortable?

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Conclusion: Being a Fanboy is Easy and Common Sense.

These rules probably sound simple and maybe even a little silly. I mean, I didn’t give you anything earth-shattering here. But honestly, the nicer you are, the more enjoyable your private cam shows are going to be.

And, truthfully, your favorite cam girls are going to be more apt to want to engage with you if you’re being a nice guy, making your private cam shows more fun for you both, thus making you one of their favorite fanboys.

Be patient, friendly, engaging, polite, and just a good guy and you’re going to get to that fanboy status you’re coveting.

How to Properly “Go Down” On a Girl So She Enjoys It!

Oral sex is amazing. Like, seriously, the act of penetrative sex is mostly always awesome, but for many (many) women, cunnilingus is the best and only way they can reach a mind-blowing orgasm. So, it is really kind of meh when you’re with someone that just can’t get the job done and that’s the only way you can “get there”.

That’s why today I want to touch on the subject of going down on her. If you can master this important sex skill, you’re going to have your lady friend, or friends, squirming, squealing, and begging for more in no time. And let’s face it, it is sure a fun thing to practice!

If you’ve never seen a vagina, you’ve never attempted to go down on a girl, or you’re just not sure what to do when you’re down there, this article will teach you how to properly go down on her so that she enjoys it.

How To Go Down On A Girl

7 Tips for Going Down on Her…The Right Way

To start doing oral sex on a woman the right way, you kind of need to understand what she is rocking below the belt.

I’m not going to provide a diagram here because there is nothing grosser and more boring than high school sex-ed taught by the gym teacher who is uncomfortably droning on. You can find diagrams online anywhere and they can help point out where the hotspots are on a lady’s bits.

If you are in a relationship, or you have a willing sex buddy, she can also show you where things are and how she likes them. Remember, though, that not every woman is going to be the same and what one likes, one might not enjoy too much.

The biggest key to doing anything sexual and making it fun is to keep the lines of communication open with them so that everyone has fun!

So, now that you know about her nooks and crannies, here are the seven tips for going down on her the right way.

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#1: Keep Things Slow.

Sometimes sex is a quickie thing. You both can’t keep your hands off of each other and you’re just going to town, or you’re trying to fit it in before someone notices what you’re doing. In those cases, you’re probably not focusing on going down on her; it’s more of a “wham, bam, thank you ma’am.”

However, if you are focusing on oral pleasure, you need to remember that this is a marathon and not a sprint. So many times, when we’re excited, aroused, or nervous we start going in hyper-speed, but for this situation and for most women, this isn’t just going to work.

If you’re going down on her, slow it down, even slower than you think you need to be going (unless and until she tells you otherwise).

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#2: Build Up the Sexual Anticipation.

For guys, it can be very difficult to keep “things” under control when the bedroom antics are getting hot and heavy. I mean picture it:

You’re excited.

You’re with a naked lady.

She’s touching you AND letting you touch her.

Then she’s making all those noises that just get your goods throbbing.

If you’re a gentleman, you want it to be ladies first, but damn it can be hard to hold yourself off when you just want to bust a nut. That may prompt you to just dive in tongue first and hope she gets off as quickly as possible.

Let me tell you, this is the absolute wrong thing to do.

When you’re going down on her, you want to be build up some anticipation. You want to tease her, caress her, touch, lick, kiss, and breathe erotically all over her, not just her kitty. Sex is about the build-up for us and the more you do to get us revved up, the more we’re going to be begging for you.

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#3: Use Your Breath, But Don’t Darth Vader Her.

Ok, this one is going to need some clarification because I can just picture guys doing the old “Darth Vader” asthmatic panting on a lady’s parts and then getting mad because she thought it was creepy. And it is creepy, so don’t go all COPD on your lady.

Breathing is an often overlooked tool in the sexual arsenal and if done right, can heighten the mood. Exhale slowly, with your mouth wide open, using warm air to get her excited. Give her a slow and sensual lick, from the bottom of the vagina to the top and then switch to a pursed-lip, cool air tactic on the wet spot you’ve just created.

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#4: Get That Tongue A’Circlin’.

Once your lady is feeling excited and you’ve gotten her ready for the main oral event, the worst thing you can now do is hit her straight on with the jackhammer tongue. Don’t pretend that you’re repeatedly hitting an elevator button to close the door before that creep from down the hall tries who never shuts up tries to get in with you.

Instead, use your tongue gently, circling around her love button, teasing her. Eventually, you can use your tongue flat, pushing against her clit. And remember, every woman is different, so if she likes you to get rough with her little bean right away, do what she likes.

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#5: Don’t Always Stop When She Cums.

Again, this is personal preference, so talk to your lady first. But, if she’s down, after she orgasms her pelvic muscles are going to contract and radiate out from there to the rest of her body. This is why it is so pleasurable for women to have an orgasm.

You can heighten this experience by applying pressure to the length of her vulva or to the clitoral head (with caution, it may be tooooo sensitive at that point) either with your tongue, your flat palm, or even a sex toy.

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#6: Do a Debriefing…Later.

Along with talking about what she likes before you both get busy, it’s also beneficial to discuss what she did or didn’t enjoy once the deed is done. There is nothing wrong with talking about sex, in fact, it’s the mature thing to do and the only way you’re going to improve is to get feedback.

Don’t get offended if you did something she didn’t enjoy, just work on it for next time!

Do Your Homework

#7: Do Your Homework on Your Downtime.

Homework? Whaaa?

Yep, when you’re not in the bedroom is one of the best times to work on your technique. You want a nice strong tongue that can keep going for her, and all ya’ll guys know that some women take a loooong time to cum. That means your tongue will be working overtime and it can get exhausting.

When you’ve got some free time and you’re not around people who might get really offended by your lewd movements, open your mouth and move that tongue up and down, left and right, and all around. Just like you should exercise your other muscles, you should exercise your tongue for more stamina.

Bonus Tip: Relax and Enjoy.

Sex shouldn’t be clinical, unless you’re into that sort of thing. So, while these tips will go a long way in improving your technique when going down on her, they won’t do a damn thing if you’re not relaxed and enjoying yourself. Just as it’s important to get her calm, relaxed, and ready, you need to do the same for you.

Now, practice your tongue movements and get yourself ready to blow her mind!

Related article: How To Give The Best Blowjobs

Preparing for Anal Sex…No You Can’t “Just Do It”

For most of us, having sex of some type is something we can do on the fly. I mean, sure, there are people who have kids and busy schedules and need to “write-in” a sex session with their partner, but for the most part, it’s pretty easy to get busy at the drop of a hat.

If you’re someone who is considering going for a little something spicier, something new, then you might be considering a little bit of anal sex. Anal sex isn’t just the stuff of porno’s and college bro’s anymore; more and more women are beginning to enjoy this once-taboo bit of fun in the bedroom.

Unlike vaginal sex, though, anal sex can’t just be done at the spur of the moment unless you really want to make things uncomfortable and messy. If you’re considering getting a bit frisky at the back door, you’ll definitely want to consider these tips to prepare for anal sex.

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Five Super Tips to Prepare for Anal Sex

Before you travel down this new highway of lovin’, you want to make sure that both partners are on board and understand what exactly it takes to make anal sex happen.

This is a totally different animal than vaginal or oral sex and requires prep work, including a discussion about it. Just “doing it” is not only going to piss off your partner, but you could also possibly hurt them.

Before you even think of any poking in the behind, you need to decide how it’s going to go down.

Will it be strictly penile penetration, or will you be trying fingers or toys?

Is there anything your partner absolutely does not want to do?

Are you ok with her limiting what goes down and are you willing to stop if she says so?

Do you have everything ready to go (like a lot of lube)?

Seriously, if you two can’t talk about butt things, you’re not ready for butt things, so keep that in mind.

And if she just does not want to do it, do not pressure her into it. That’s not fair and it’s going to cause problems for you that you just don’t need over something so minor.

So, what are the other tips to prepare for anal sex? Well, here you go!

One Finger Only

#1: Start with a Finger or Rimming.

Before you even begin to poke other things in your or your girlfriends, bottom, there needs to be some experimentation.

Anything bigger than a finger is going to require much more prep work to keep things safe and clean, so it’s really best to start with a finger or two.

While you and your partner are getting busy, or she’s playing by herself, let a finger wander on back to the sphincter.

Yes, it’s going to be tight. I mean, typically this is an exit only. But just like a woman should masturbate to see what she likes and doesn’t like, playing with the bottom will let her know if she enjoys it or not.

You could also give rimming a try to see if that helps her relax. Rimming, also known as “tossing the salad” or analingus, is when your partner uses their tongue on the anal sphincter.

If it isn’t enjoyable with a finger or tongue, there is a good chance something else might not be her cup of tea either.

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#2: Get Clean.

We’ve all heard the horror stories of someone making quite the mess during anal sex. While poo isn’t stored in the anal canal, it’s in the upper bowels, nobody wants there to be even the slightest chance that there could be fecal matter involved in sexy times.

(Unless that’s your thing, which in that case, have at it)

If it’s possible, a visit to the bathroom should be done 30-60 minutes prior to the main event. A nice, long, relaxing shower is also good.

Not just to make sure that any remnants of the bathroom visit are gone, but also to get her in the mood.

If you or your lady are really worried about poo, an enema is an option. It isn’t a necessity, but if you want a deeper clean, this is the way to go.

Enema kits are available just about everywhere and if you’re shy, order one.

A word of warning on the use of enemas. Frequent use can cause you some issues down the road and they shouldn’t be used often for sexual purposes.

Not only can they cause electrolyte imbalances, but they can damage the muscles back there that regulate normal bowel function.

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#3: Stock Up on Lube.

If you’re preparing for anal sex, you absolutely have to use lube. Let me repeat it for the folks in the back who aren’t listening.

If you’re going to perform anal sex, you MUST use lube. Unlike the vagina, there is absolutely no self-lubrication back there at all. Get yourself some lube and get a lot of it.

This leads to the question, “What kind of lube should I get?”

Here are the lube rules, which will, of course, vary by your situation.

First, do not get any numbing lube or creams. Sure, they may work to stop pain in the moment, but if you’re doing anal sex properly, there shouldn’t be extreme amounts of pain anyway.

The biggest issue with these products is that they will prevent you from stopping if there is an issue and once they wear off, the pain and damage could be worse.

Secondly, if you’re using condoms, don’t use an oil-based lubricant. Oil-based lubes will break down the latex in condoms and if you’re trying to prevent STDs, especially HIV, you’re really putting yourself at risk.

Instead, opt for a water-based lube, which will be easier to clean up from yourself and the sheets and they are A-OK with toys and sexual protection.

Just remember, water-based lubes don’t last as long as oil-based, so have a butt-ton of it at your disposal. (Pun definitely intended).

Oh, and I wish I didn’t have to say this, but do not rely on spit as a lubricant. Porn has really skewed people’s thinking on sexual matters and trust me, a good old loogey is not a proper lube.

Anal Toys

#4: Consider Starting with a Toy.

If she still isn’t totally ready to have a penis in her behind, but she’s kind of into what the rimming and self-play did for her, consider using a toy first.

Again, when preparing for anal sex, there are some things you have to be careful with when choosing a toy.

Unlike a vagina which has a built-in stopper (the cervix, for those not in the know), the anal canal has no such stopper.

If you choose a toy that has no flared end, you do risk having said toy being stuck up in the pipe. I don’t know about you, but I would be beyond pissed if I had to go to the hospital and explain that one!

Instead, choose something like a small butt plug or toy that has a flared end to it. You may have to experiment with toys that increase in size over a period of a few weeks, so keep that in mind too.

You can’t go from nothing ever crossing that threshold to a giant toy or penis in one night; trying to do so could result in tears, bleeding, pain, and a doctor’s visit.

Choose Wisely

#5: Keep on One Path.

Let’s say you’ve done all the prep work for anal sex and your lady is totally into it. You got your goods in, she’s feeling good, but it doesn’t get her the home run and she needs some regular vaginal penetration to orgasm.

Whatever you do, DO NOT USE THE SAME CONDOM (OR DIRTY DICK) IN HER VAGINA.

It doesn’t matter how clean she was prior to the two of you getting started, the rectum is a place full of bacteria. If you move from anal to vaginal, you’re putting her at-risk for UTI’s and other nasties that require some strong antibiotics. And if you two did it bareback, you’re actually at-risk for issues if any of that bacteria gets into your penile tip.

To keep everyone safe, use protection and remove it between holes or stick strictly with one hole only per sexy session.

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Conclusion: Anal Sex Can Be Fun but Requires Prep Work.

Like anything that you want to be good at, anal sex requires some prep work. Otherwise, it just isn’t going to be enjoyable. And, be honest, don’t you want to have a good time having anal sex? That’s the only way it’ll happen a second time, that’s for sure.

So, before you venture on down to brown town, follow these five tips to prepare for anal sex. You can thank me after you orgasm like never before. You’re very welcome! Now, if you’re not up for all that, then hop on cam and chat with a model instead.

How To Give The Best Blowjobs

I want to confess one thing…I love giving blowjobs. Like, really love it. When I’m not making money on cam, I’m probably doing this – not joking. There is nothing sexier to me than being able to pleasure my man better than any other woman was ever able to do so.

I know, I know, not everyone enjoys giving oral sex. From having someone’s junk thrust into your face, which may or may not have a distinct scent, to him getting too pushy and attempting the obnoxious face-fuck that you never agreed to. We’ve all had bad bj experiences, but don’t let it stop you from giving head!

My friends always ask me why I love giving blowjobs so much. For me, there is absolutely nothing more empowering than having that control over a man. And for the guy, he gets the experience of sex without having to do all the work and you’re doing something he can’t do for himself, which is also amazing.

If you’re looking to improve your blowjob techniques and make it more enjoyable for the both of you, or you’re brand new to giving head and you want to be the bomb diggity at it from the get-go, consider these 7 tips for giving the best blowjobs of your life!

How To Give A Great Blowjob

7 Tips for Giving the Best Blowjobs

Giving good head is an art. Anyone can plop some junk in their mouth and go through the motions, but to make it memorable and enjoyable for both of you, it takes some work. I mean, it is called a “job” after all!

However, this type of job is one of the best and definitely shouldn’t be drudgery. If you’re looking to give an excellent bj, consider these blowjob tips:

Enthusiasm

  1. Be enthusiastic!

The number one rule for giving a blowjob is to have fun and act as if you actually want to be doing it. If you’re not enthusiastic about what you’re doing, your man is going to be able to tell and he’s not going to enjoy it either.

Now, let me say this especially loud for the people in the back of the room: Never, ever do something you don’t want to do and don’t do it with someone you’re not happy to be with, especially in the bedroom. I would never advocate doing something just to make another person happy.

However, if you’re down, and thinking of going down (see what I did there?), here is how you can show your guy you’re enthusiastic about gobbling his knob:

  • Keep eye contact – Here is where you want to release your inner sex goddess and flap those big eyelashes at him after you’ve been looking at his unit. Don’t maintain unblinking eye contact, that’s just strange and creepy. Instead, make it seem like you can’t keep your eyes off of his junk and let him read through your eyes how much you want him.
  • Ask him what he wants – Communication is key before and during sex. Ask him what type of bj’s he enjoys, stop while you’re pleasuring him and ask if it’s wet enough, or how he is enjoying it. Just do not ever ask if he’s “close.” If you have to ask, you’re not doing it right, anyway.
  • Let him know how turned on you are – Men aren’t really any different than we are, and they get nervous about oral sex as well. Ease his nerves by complimenting him. Saying, “I love how you feel in my mouth” can go a long way.

Hands Should Be Used!

  1. Use your hands.

Oral sex isn’t just about your mouth. Using your hands can really help when your mouth and jaw are starting to get tired. An effective blowjob is a nice mix of wetness and suction along with your hands providing some pressure.

Try this once you’ve warmed up a bit:

  • Wrap your hand around the shaft of his penis and then add your mouth.
  • Put your mouth against your thumb and forefinger, like you’re kissing them.
  • Move your hand and lips up and down his penis in one fluid motion.

You can also try mixing it up, moving your hand separately from your mouth, add in a wrist twist, and if he’s ok with it (and you asked beforehand), cup his balls gently with the other hand.

Use Your Spit

  1. Use spit…lots and lots of spit.

Successful oral sex is wet and slippery. Nobody likes it dry; I mean, do you like when things are too dry down there?

The more spit you use, the more movement you’re going to have and the better it will feel for him. Don’t go too crazy and make it so you’re both covered in drool and your hands are slipping all over the place, but make sure things stay moist. And definitely keep some water on hand, you’re probably going to need it.

use your tongue

  1. Use your tongue.

Your tongue is a great way to drive your guy crazy, especially if you start flicking on that little spot on the underside of his penis called the frenulum. They have a boatload of nerve endings in that one area and light touching, tongue flicking, and rubbing of your tongue up and down his shaft is not only porn-like, but it is also mind-blowing for them.

lips

  1. Keeps those lips pursed.

Try saying the word “purple” right now. See how your lips get pursed and your tongue drops down? That’s the position you want to stay in when you have a mouth full o’peenie. It makes your lips feel like perfect little pillows and combined with suction, makes your mouth an amazing place to rest his penis for a few minutes.

deep

  1. Give deep throating a try.

This will depend on the size of your man’s manhood and how experienced you are with doing blowjobs. Deep-throating is more of an advanced skill and if done improperly can result in (at best) you gagging, or (at worst) you barfing all over your partner’s crotch.

Men enjoy deep throating because, well it’s kind of slutty, makes them feel manly seeing their goods disappear completely into your mouth, and your throat is a tighter space. Men love putting that thing in tight spaces!

If you want to practice deep throating without throwing up on a guy, get yourself some popsicles and work through getting it deeper and deeper, all the while breathing through your nose. If after some practice you just can’t do it, don’t force the issue. Don’t ever choke yourself on a penis, it’s totally not worth it.

butt play

  1. Consider butt play.

This is something you would have ideally discussed before you’re going to town on his penis. Some men love, love, LOVE anal play while they’re being pleasured, and some won’t have you anywhere near the backdoor with a finger.

If your guy is into trying it out, start by gently touching his perineum (the taint for all you uncouth folks) and working up to a finger in the old bum. The prostate is in that area and is very sensitive (a male G-spot), making some men cum even harder when it is stimulated.

If you really want to blow his mind, have your mouth on the head of his penis, one hand working the shaft, the other cupping and gently massaging his balls while your pointer finger on that hand works his perineum and slips into his bottom.

Trust me, if he’s into butt play, he’s going to be putty in your hands if you can master this move.

Conclusion: Blowjobs can and should be fun!

Oral sex is amazing, especially when it is done well. If you want to please and pleasure your man like he’s never been pleasured before, consider these best blowjob tips to making his head spin. And when you’re done, hold your head high and take pride in the fact that you’re the BJ Queen! Oh, don’t forget to put this skill on your webcam profile. The boys will go nuts for it!

Stripchat Review

I’ve been covering a lot of cam sites lately. The reason being, I got some emails, enough of them to make me want to really dive into many more sites and cover what I know about them. It seems that I’ve got both models and consumers reading my blog these days (no complaints! The more the merrier!). That said, I have made it a point to cover various sites and provide information to both consumers and cam models so that I can provide info to everyone. That said, I am here today to cover a site called Stripchat.

This is one of the many live strip chat sites on the Internet today. It’s quite good actually and one that you need to learn more about. I have covered not only the basics but everything else in between that you need to know about. Keep reading for all the details…

StripChat.com

Stripchat.com Review (It’s A Great Cam Site)

There are a lot of cam sites out there and it can be difficult to know whether or not you happen to be on a good one. There are so many around that you can’t possibly check them all out for yourself.

There are a few different features that you can look for to make sure you’re getting everything you need for a good camming experience. The first thing to check out is whether or not you tip in public chat. This makes for a very different time than you’d have on sites that require private shows.

The next thing to look at is the number of girls and the way they’re all organized. It will tell you what the site focuses on and the kind of niches that you can play with. That’s where StripChat comes in. This is a great cam site that does it all for you.

There Are Thousands Of Models

The consumer will love this factor, any time you can find thousands of models online at the same time is going to be a good time. This site has almost three thousand of them on at any time of the day or night. That means you’re always going to be able to find someone who’s willing to do the things you want them to.

The models are all organized well so you can find the right girl right away. They’re all ready to be browsed by age, ethnicity, body type, or specialty. You can find any age from teen to granny. There are also models in their twenties, MILFs and matures to check out.

There’s every ethnicity from Arab to white, ebony, Indian, and Latina. No matter what you want, you can find it right here and have the fun you need to have with them.

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Have Fun In Public And Private

The best thing about the site is that they let you tip out in the public chats. I’m talking about the non-exclusive public chat sessions. You know, when cam girls like me get online and start chatting. That means the models will usually have interactive sex toys that you can set off for them.

They’ll respond to your tips and you can set them off at any intensity and length of time that you want. You’ll still have the ability to go private if you want, though. It lets you use the site however you want to have the kind of fun that you enjoy the most.

Conclusion: Use Strip Chat Today

This is a site that you should be checking out right now. It has everything you could possibly want in a cam site. You can tip in the public rooms as well as take your favorite models private. There are thousands of them online at any time and they’re all organized by any of the most important features.

You can search by age or body type and get right into the chat rooms that you want to check out. The models are all amazing and they come from all over the world. It’s a great cam site for anyone to check out.

Please remember, this is only one of the many cam sites that I’ve covered over the years. Check out the full list of sites I’ve researched before you start using this one. Anyway, I think that will help you make a choice as to whether or not this Stripchat site is for you. Should you have any more questions, please be sure to hit me up online!

Cams.com Review

If you’ve read my recently published Jerkmate.com review then you know that I’m trying to help both consumers and models have more informed experiences when using cam sites today.

Having covered so many of the sites out there, I know what to look for, what’s important for models to know and what’s important for cam consumers to know as well.

I’ve covered all I know about Cams.com today. This review should help you make an informed decision as to whether it’s a good choice for you.

Remember, you literally have so many webcam sites to choose from and that makes this a really important decision. Whether you are trying to become a cam model or you’re trying to use it as a consumer, you need to do your research.

cams.com review

Details About Cams.com You Need To Know

There are a ton of different cam sites out there and it can tough to find one that’s perfect for you. That’s why trying out as many as you can will give you the best chance of success.

If you don’t have the time or money to go to all of the different sites, check out Cams.com for yourself. It’s about as straightforward as a cam site can be.

In fact, it can be the basis that you judge all other cam sites against. The quality is always great and there are tons of models from all over the world.

Who Needs It

This is a cam site for anyone who loves variety in their cam sites. Not all of them offer this type of variety, so I truly value this factor. You get a little bit of everything here.

If you’re a consumer, you can check out skinny girls, curvy girls, couples, blondes, brunettes, mature women, and teens at any time that you want.

I’d also like to add that the cams.com site has been around for a very long time and it’s very well-known. There are thousands of women like myself on it at any given moment and they all want to have a little fun on cam.

That’s really what makes it a premier cam destination for anyone who loves to interact with them.

Cams.com

The Pros

There are a ton of pros when it comes to this site. The biggest one is the number of models on it at any time of the night or day. Anyone can become one of these models. Sure, it means there are lots of models to compete against but competition is healthy!

In fact, the link to apply is right on the site for anyone who wants to try it out. As for the model’s physical appearances, there’s every “body type” imaginable here and it’s all searchable right on the site.

A few clicks is going to bring you to tons of cams that exactly fit what you’re looking for. That’s something that can keep you coming back every single day. Is it better than Camsoda.com? Not a chance, but it’s still pretty damn good in my humble opinion.

What You Get Joining

Signing up is going to get you 100 free tokens to use right away. You can spend them however you want with no restrictions.

There are also tons of pornstars on the site. You can interact with the women you see in porn videos any time you want.

You get stats for any model that you come across. Yes, within seconds just like other sites, you can see her age, height, bra size, hair color and everything else.

Also, the free chat is also unlimited after you sign up. If you’re a model, then you can also earn a whole lot of money if you decide to cam on the site. It’s open to anyone with a cam and internet connection.

Conclusion

This is just an all-around great cam site for anyone to use. They have it all and it’s not going to be going anywhere any time soon, trust me on that. All you have to do is sign up to see it all for yourself.

Check it out whenever you can and you’re not going to be disappointed with it at all.

Again, for consumers looking to chat, the models will always be willing to do anything at all that you want (for the most part) if you have the credits to pay for requests. I’d say this is a cam site worth looking into today.

Now, if you’re looking for other sites, then I must suggest that you read this page in its entirety, especially before joining this site or any other cam sites.

ImLive Review

It’s been a wild week and with this whole Coronavirus taking off worldwide, there is literally no better time to spend in your house and on webcam. I’ve been feeling slightly under the weather myself, but that will not stop me from doing cam to cam shows! At any rate, I’m not here to talk about my health. Instead, I’m here to talk about a site called ImLive.com. It’s one that I have ranked and rated on my cam site review page here. If you’re curious to learn about the ImLive website and you’re either a consumer or cam girl, then you need to read this review.

ImLive.com Review

Official ImLive Cam Site Review

Not going to waste any time here. I’ll just dive right in instead. ImLive is the largest and most popular cam site in the world.

It’s filled with cam performers from all over the globe who know how to give you exactly what you want in a cam show. For consumers, all it takes to check it all out is an email address.

New users can register one and start using the site right away. You’ll only have to purchase credits if you want to interact with the models.

If you don’t want to interact, you can simply watch all of the cam feed that you want for free. The interface is sleek and easy to use. You can always find the buttons that you’re looking for.

Cam Site Features

Top Hosts

ImLive has some of the best cam show features that anyone could ask for. They offer a well-rounded camming experience that lets you get the most out of your time on the site.

You can get yourself into things like vibrator shows, outdoor cams, or you can just head to the Top Hosts section to find the best of the best. You can send virtual gifts, control the model’s sex toy, and take anyone you want into a private show. There’s really nothing you can’t do on this site.

Getting To Know The Hosts

Of course, no site is worth your time if the hosts aren’t any good. That’s not something you have to worry about here. There are over 80,000 cam models on the site so you can find anything that you’re looking for.

They touch on every niche that you can possibly imagine. You’ll be able to find your perfect body type with a few clicks. The streams are always high quality so you won’t have to deal with any bad video. Models are called Hosts and users are called Guests. That’s all you really need to know to get started.

Premium Membership

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If you want the most out of the site, then you need to become a premium member. These members are given access to candy shows, which are special shows that the hosts put on. You can then go private or go cam to cam with your favorite models.

You’ll also be given access to an exclusive porn star show once a month. You can interact with famous porn stars and see what they do when they want to impress a live audience instead of a set full of crew members.

Conclusion: Join ImLive Today

FAQ Section

There are no two ways about this. You should be a member of this cam site. It’s everything that you’ve wanted in a cam site. You can interact with the models in public chat or you can bring them into a private show.

You can send them gifts or turn on your own cam for an experience that you’ll never be able to forget. The models come from all over the world and the video feeds always look great. It’s a site that you need to see for yourself to really believe. There’s a reason it’s the most popular cam site in the world.

Looking for more camming advice and reviews? No problem! Head on over to this page for more intel.

How To Make A Woman Squirt

Cam shows have exploded in popularity and everyone and their sister has started getting into the cam show world. With the number of cam shows that occur every day and the oversaturation of girls in the cam show market, it can be difficult to differentiate yourself from every other pretty, sexy woman out there.

There are many ways to make your cam shows more exciting and one of the top ways to make your shows memorable and to draw in customers who are into things a little sexier is to squirt during a show.

If you’re not familiar with what squirting is, you’re definitely not alone. There are many people who have never heard of squirting or they don’t believe that it is possible. But, trust me, squirting is totally real and can really get your customers excited if you can pull it off during a show.

If you’re interested in learning about squirting and how to make a woman squirt, this is your go-to guide.

Make Her Squirt Tips

What Exactly Is Squirting (A How To Guide)

Once considered a rare, fringe thing, squirting is now something a little more mainstream, and something that turns men on like you wouldn’t believe!

So, what exactly is squirting? Squirting refers to the expulsion of fluid from a woman’s urethra when she is having an intense, mind-blowing orgasm that is due to G-spot stimulation. Science doesn’t really understand much about squirting, they mostly study male sexual stuff, so they don’t know what the thin, milky fluid is that comes out. Some say its urine, some say its fluid from the Skene’s glands, the female equivalent of the prostate gland.

The bottom line is this: Nobody cares what the fluid is. It’s just something sexy that women can do and if you can, you’re sure to not only turn on your sex partner(s) but also increase the tips you earn during your cam shows.

The biggest question most women have is if they can squirt. And the answer is “Absolutely!” All women have the capability to squirt, it just takes a little prep work and some time.

If you’ve never squirted before and you’re looking to improve your cam shows, here are the best steps to make yourself, or any woman, squirt.

Simple Steps To Making Any Woman Squirt

These are the exact steps you need to take in order to make your girlfriend, wife or any woman you know squirt.

get ready to squirt

Step #1: Get Prepared

Squirting is a skill and just like any other skill, it takes some prep work to make it happen. Whether you’re going to attempt to squirt on camera on your own, or you’re going to have a partner to help, you need to make sure you do a few things to get ready.

First, get your mind clear and ready for some sexy times. A mind that is occupied with something else just isn’t going to cooperate. Play some sexy music, have a nice, relaxing bath, and burn some incense or scented candles to set the mood.

Oh, and please, go to the bathroom before you begin playing. A full bladder isn’t going to help in aiding relaxation and if you’re empty and you do actually squirt, you can be assured it isn’t urine like some people claim.

Once the mood is set, its time to really warm her, or yourself, up. Foreplay is essential for squirting and you have to do what works for you; everyone will be different. If you’re with a partner, consider a massage, heavy kissing, dirty talk, and/or focusing on erogenous zones.

If you’re attempting to squirt alone, touch yourself how you enjoy it, use toys to tease yourself and watch or read whatever porn typically gets you going.

comfortable position

Step #2: Get Into A Comfortable Position

It is extremely important that you, or your partner, are completely relaxed, both physically and mentally. The heavier the foreplay, the more relaxed you will be. Once your head is ready, now you want to get yourself into the correct position.

To prepare to squirt, lay down somewhere comfortable. Whether it’s a bed, rug, or couch, make sure it’s comfortable, sensual, and provides a good view for your show.

Next, put your bottom on a pillow. A little elevation will provide better access to your G-Spot and clitoris at the same time. Because you’re going to be ejaculating, you are probably going to want to have a towel down as well, or at least nearby, to prevent too much of a mess.

lube needed

Step #3: Have Lube Ready

Lube is absolutely essential in getting a woman to squirt. You can choose to use whatever type of lube you like, just remember that oil-based lubes will deteriorate latex condoms and can damage sex toys.

The key is to make sure everything is wet; the clit, vulva, and inside the vagina, as well as the toys and fingers being used to stimulate yourself. Really the wetter, the better when it comes to squirting.

Find The G-Spot

Step #4: Find That G-Spot

Finding the G-Spot isn’t difficult if you know what you’re looking for and you know how to find it.

Here’s how:

  1. Stimulate the clitoris for a few minutes, it really gets things “going”.
  2. Insert the middle finger into the vagina (palm facing up). You don’t need more than one finger, it will just make things too crowded.
  3. About two inches deep, begin rubbing the upper vaginal wall in a “come here” motion.

After a few minutes of stimulation, the G-Spot should become more noticeable. It will feel spongy, wrinkled, and almond-shaped and be located about two knuckles deep. Approximately 10-15 minutes of stimulation should cause the G-Spot to balloon up and the frontal wall should swell.

At this point, there will be a strong urge to urinate, and as long as your bladder was emptied, it isn’t actually urine, it’s ejaculate. Now is the time to let loose and let those juices flow!

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What If It Doesn’t Happen?

Unfortunately, squirting isn’t always the easiest thing to do and it won’t always happen the first, or first few times you attempt it. If it doesn’t work out initially, don’t fret. It can happen.

Experimenting with different finger movements can usually do the trick. Tapping on the G-Spot, applying more pressure, or stimulating the clitoris at the same time as stimulating the G-Spot can all increase arousal and the chances for squirting.

There are also specialized G-Spot stimulating toys that focus on the intended area and can give your or your partner’s hands a break. Consider the Pure Wand by NJoy or the Gigi 2 by Lelo.

Also, make sure you’re hydrated. Yes, just like you should drink water for your overall well-being, squirting requires adequate hydration to occur. Get your minimum eight cups of water a day, and on the day you want to attempt squirting, drink a little more a few hours before the show.

And finally, please make sure that you relax. Squirting is all about what’s going on in the brain and the more uptight you are, the less likely it is that you’ll squirt. So, before you give up, make sure that you are totally and completely in the zone.

Instructional Video

If you’re not understanding everything about female cum and squirting, then you need to watch this video. It’s perhaps the best video on this subject that I’ve found to date. These tips can help you better understand what I’m talking about for sure.

Too Easy

Conclusion: Squirting Isn’t Always Easy, But Def Doable.

I hate to burst the bubble, but not every woman is going to be able to squirt. However, it is possible with some time and practice. And if you can accomplish this, I promise you that your cam show tips will only increase, which is exactly what all cam girls want! Hey, if you’re a consumer and you’re reading this, then you need to know that this page lists out all the cam sites you need.

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