It’s a sad tale. One that happens to millions of people around the world on a daily basis. Your HBIC (head bitch in charge) who you thought you had a bond with has up and left you. No note, no phone call, no bittersweet kiss or goodbye sex…just gone. Who is this flighty yet seductive mistress? Motivation.
Motivation & What To Do When You Lose It
What does motivation even mean? It’s so easy to throw the word around and pretend that it doesn’t have this massive weight on your shoulders that can come along with it, but honestly finding motivation can be difficult. Not to mention the fact that once you find it and you’re on top of the world until suddenly you realize that keeping motivation is a whole different beast entirely.
Like it or not, motivation is an integral part of what makes people successful. All of us, but it’s especially important to remember that motivation is NOT the end all be all of getting things done. Especially in the cam world, where you are completely in charge of your own schedule, motivation can be hard to come by for the majority of us, the majority of the time.
Trust and believe that I am the laziest cam girl you will ever meet. Even today I have been procrastinating getting ready to get on cam because the motivation just Isn’t There. I’m sure you all can relate to having zero drive to spend all the time to get dolled up, get on cam and entertain the world with your magical vagina and sparkling wit. It’s hard, and sometimes it downright sucks.
So what do you do when motivation has left you and all you can think about is laying on your couch with the only two men you need? (I’m speaking about Ben & Jerry’s of course) Well, it’s not an easy answer, and honestly, it’s not one that is going to be cut and dry. Different strokes for different folks and all that. However, I can tell you what works for me and maybe it will give you some ideas to try on your own.
Look at fancy things.
I know this could mean literally anything, and might sound a little silly but I LOVE searching for houses that are for sale/rent that would be in my price range if I consistently worked my schedule. Clothing that I know I would have the money to buy if I could just stick to actually getting my ass on cam. Fast cars and nice vacations. Really anything that strikes your fancy will
do, but when the motivation is lacking sometimes all it takes it to look at something that could be within your reach if you just got up and got moving.
Go On A Camgirl Forum BUT STAY AWAY FROM THE NEGATIVE THREADS!
It helps to have support. So when I’m perfectly content with sitting on the couch and reading my smut, even though my subconscious is niggling in the back of my mind telling me to be an adult and own up to my responsibility of working, it can help in an amazing way to get on a forum and read about how badass the other models are doing.
I like to look at the goal threads or the bragging threads. It helps me to see that other models are out there killing it and reinforces the fact that if I push myself then I too could be the one posting in those threads and motivating other models to go out there and kill it.
Exercise isn’t fun. We all know this, but nobody ever said it was SUPPOSED to be fun. It does however keep you healthy, but that’s beside the point in this scenario. When I am extra lazy it’s really easy for me to slip into a depression and let myself become a complete sloppy mess and not do anything that I said to myself I was going to accomplish.
Now, I know that it takes a whole different type of motivation in itself to get yourself up and exercising, but if you can conquer even 5 minutes of jumping jacks or crunches and get your blood flowing it can help.
Whenever I exercise (especially in the morning) I already feel so accomplished and that I pushed myself and it makes it that much easier to get ready and face the rest of my goals for the day, and then smash them.
Accomplishing goals breeds more accomplishments, and I don’t think anyone would disagree that getting up and exercising even though it isn’t the easiest thing in the world can motivate you enough to make you feel like you can take on the world. Hell anyone who can do 10 burpees in a row or spin for an hour can do great things. #BeastMode
SET A SCHEDULE AND STICK TO IT
This sounds like it should be so easy, but we all know it isn’t. If you accomplish this then my hat is off to you, because it is still something that I am quite literally working on every day to try and master. IF you set a schedule (ex: Monday-Friday 4 pm-8 pm) then you can treat it like you would any other 9-5 job.
Even on the days that you don’t want to go there, you still do. Pick up your briefcase, down some coffee, and get ‘er done. If you worked for somebody else, you would show up to that job whether or not you had the motivation so that is the same feeling that you need to take with you when you are setting a schedule to get on cam.
These aren’t foolproof, and it’s okay that we all have bad days every once in a while. The key is training your mind to be better than it was yesterday, to push yourself to go the extra mile and do something that you might not want to do. Dedication trumps inspiration, so please just force yourself to do something and you’ll end up motivating yourself. Now stop reading this and go out there and SLAY.