For most of us, having sex of some type is something we can do on the fly. I mean, sure, there are people who have kids and busy schedules and need to “write-in” a sex session with their partner, but for the most part, it’s pretty easy to get busy at the drop of a hat.
If you’re someone who is considering going for a little something spicier, something new, then you might be considering a little bit of anal sex. Anal sex isn’t just the stuff of porno’s and college bro’s anymore; more and more women are beginning to enjoy this once-taboo bit of fun in the bedroom.
Unlike vaginal sex, though, anal sex can’t just be done at the spur of the moment unless you really want to make things uncomfortable and messy. If you’re considering getting a bit frisky at the back door, you’ll definitely want to consider these tips to prepare for anal sex.
Five Super Tips to Prepare for Anal Sex
Before you travel down this new highway of lovin’, you want to make sure that both partners are on board and understand what exactly it takes to make anal sex happen.
This is a totally different animal than vaginal or oral sex and requires prep work, including a discussion about it. Just “doing it” is not only going to piss off your partner, but you could also possibly hurt them.
Before you even think of any poking in the behind, you need to decide how it’s going to go down.
Will it be strictly penile penetration, or will you be trying fingers or toys?
Is there anything your partner absolutely does not want to do?
Are you ok with her limiting what goes down and are you willing to stop if she says so?
Do you have everything ready to go (like a lot of lube)?
Seriously, if you two can’t talk about butt things, you’re not ready for butt things, so keep that in mind.
And if she just does not want to do it, do not pressure her into it. That’s not fair and it’s going to cause problems for you that you just don’t need over something so minor.
So, what are the other tips to prepare for anal sex? Well, here you go!
#1: Start with a Finger or Rimming.
Before you even begin to poke other things in your or your girlfriends, bottom, there needs to be some experimentation.
Anything bigger than a finger is going to require much more prep work to keep things safe and clean, so it’s really best to start with a finger or two.
While you and your partner are getting busy, or she’s playing by herself, let a finger wander on back to the sphincter.
Yes, it’s going to be tight. I mean, typically this is an exit only. But just like a woman should masturbate to see what she likes and doesn’t like, playing with the bottom will let her know if she enjoys it or not.
You could also give rimming a try to see if that helps her relax. Rimming, also known as “tossing the salad” or analingus, is when your partner uses their tongue on the anal sphincter.
If it isn’t enjoyable with a finger or tongue, there is a good chance something else might not be her cup of tea either.
#2: Get Clean.
We’ve all heard the horror stories of someone making quite the mess during anal sex. While poo isn’t stored in the anal canal, it’s in the upper bowels, nobody wants there to be even the slightest chance that there could be fecal matter involved in sexy times.
(Unless that’s your thing, which in that case, have at it)
If it’s possible, a visit to the bathroom should be done 30-60 minutes prior to the main event. A nice, long, relaxing shower is also good.
Not just to make sure that any remnants of the bathroom visit are gone, but also to get her in the mood.
If you or your lady are really worried about poo, an enema is an option. It isn’t a necessity, but if you want a deeper clean, this is the way to go.
Enema kits are available just about everywhere and if you’re shy, order one.
A word of warning on the use of enemas. Frequent use can cause you some issues down the road and they shouldn’t be used often for sexual purposes.
Not only can they cause electrolyte imbalances, but they can damage the muscles back there that regulate normal bowel function.
#3: Stock Up on Lube.
If you’re preparing for anal sex, you absolutely have to use lube. Let me repeat it for the folks in the back who aren’t listening.
If you’re going to perform anal sex, you MUST use lube. Unlike the vagina, there is absolutely no self-lubrication back there at all. Get yourself some lube and get a lot of it.
This leads to the question, “What kind of lube should I get?”
Here are the lube rules, which will, of course, vary by your situation.
First, do not get any numbing lube or creams. Sure, they may work to stop pain in the moment, but if you’re doing anal sex properly, there shouldn’t be extreme amounts of pain anyway.
The biggest issue with these products is that they will prevent you from stopping if there is an issue and once they wear off, the pain and damage could be worse.
Secondly, if you’re using condoms, don’t use an oil-based lubricant. Oil-based lubes will break down the latex in condoms and if you’re trying to prevent STDs, especially HIV, you’re really putting yourself at risk.
Instead, opt for a water-based lube, which will be easier to clean up from yourself and the sheets and they are A-OK with toys and sexual protection.
Just remember, water-based lubes don’t last as long as oil-based, so have a butt-ton of it at your disposal. (Pun definitely intended).
Oh, and I wish I didn’t have to say this, but do not rely on spit as a lubricant. Porn has really skewed people’s thinking on sexual matters and trust me, a good old loogey is not a proper lube.
#4: Consider Starting with a Toy.
If she still isn’t totally ready to have a penis in her behind, but she’s kind of into what the rimming and self-play did for her, consider using a toy first.
Again, when preparing for anal sex, there are some things you have to be careful with when choosing a toy.
Unlike a vagina which has a built-in stopper (the cervix, for those not in the know), the anal canal has no such stopper.
If you choose a toy that has no flared end, you do risk having said toy being stuck up in the pipe. I don’t know about you, but I would be beyond pissed if I had to go to the hospital and explain that one!
Instead, choose something like a small butt plug or toy that has a flared end to it. You may have to experiment with toys that increase in size over a period of a few weeks, so keep that in mind too.
You can’t go from nothing ever crossing that threshold to a giant toy or penis in one night; trying to do so could result in tears, bleeding, pain, and a doctor’s visit.
#5: Keep on One Path.
Let’s say you’ve done all the prep work for anal sex and your lady is totally into it. You got your goods in, she’s feeling good, but it doesn’t get her the home run and she needs some regular vaginal penetration to orgasm.
Whatever you do, DO NOT USE THE SAME CONDOM (OR DIRTY DICK) IN HER VAGINA.
It doesn’t matter how clean she was prior to the two of you getting started, the rectum is a place full of bacteria. If you move from anal to vaginal, you’re putting her at-risk for UTI’s and other nasties that require some strong antibiotics. And if you two did it bareback, you’re actually at-risk for issues if any of that bacteria gets into your penile tip.
To keep everyone safe, use protection and remove it between holes or stick strictly with one hole only per sexy session.
Conclusion: Anal Sex Can Be Fun but Requires Prep Work.
Like anything that you want to be good at, anal sex requires some prep work. Otherwise, it just isn’t going to be enjoyable. And, be honest, don’t you want to have a good time having anal sex? That’s the only way it’ll happen a second time, that’s for sure.
So, before you venture on down to brown town, follow these five tips to prepare for anal sex. You can thank me after you orgasm like never before. You’re very welcome! Now, if you’re not up for all that, then hop on cam and chat with a model instead.